When people wake up, they may check their Facebook and E-mail at first, same in they go to bed. People often spent a lot of time online instead of doing other activities; they waste time on reading details about their friend’s live, watching their photos, and getting latest gossip about what everyone is doing. One of the reasons why people play is because they want to compete with their friends. Also, users of Facebook dwell among each other virtually, checking out each other’s profiles, viewing their pictures, or reading their posts about where they are and what they are doing. If someone’s high school classmates go for on a trip and upload 200 photos on the vacation, you may see all of the photo for fun and chat with them, post comments on the “wall”. Most of the time individuals can view pictures of absolute strangers, or of their friends friends. Even we do not who is our true friend. “We are wired to connect.” says Daniel Gloeman. ( Social Intelligence, 2006) We all know we have different friends, but there are few people we can connect in a direct and deep way. Gloeman shows us the interdependence of nature and nurture. We have to know who is our friends and who is our close friends. Even we use social network every day, but social network hasn’t really changed our life so much. Studies have shown people maintain between 4 and 7 close friends at any given time. On Facebook, every other person has at least 300 or even more friends on their page, but not all of the friends are individuals familiar with. They may be your classmates, colleges or just strangers. But what is a friend? “A single soul dwelling in two bodies.” Said by Greek philosopher Aristotle.
On BBC news, there is a research said the people who have more friends, they are easy to add friends they never know. “ This is the fear that we are all becoming more superficial, that Facebook friends represent a kind of inflation that diminishes the value of prior or true friendship.”(Tales from Facebook). Facebook helps us to connect with our friends but also can let people live into a virtual world, people will find and cultivate relationships. Individuals are prone to face security issues such as identity theft or bombardment into their personal lives from other individuals, as there is a lot of fraud and deceit with online networking websites. “The thing that we are trying to do at Facebook, is just help people connect and communicate more efficiently.” Said Mark Zuckerberg. However, some users or ex-users claim that Facebook is doing just the opposite. Many cases have appeared that show to engage Facebook as creating a lot of barriers in indivuduals relationships with others, especially with their spouses, married and unmarried. Facebook, in some countries, is a leading cause of relationship trouble, and many claim that Facebook was the “primary source” of people get divorce. Regardless of Facebook becoming a barrier between couples, the privacy of an individuals life has also become rare. The case of one 35 year old women Emma, is a clear example how some individuals have made a mockery out of their relationships while using Facebook, as she found out from her husband’s Facebook personal message post that, “[He was] finally divorcing her”. A women discovered her husband was cheating on her while having a marital affair with someone who he had met on Facebook, who later ended up divorcing him. From guardian, A spokesperson for Facebook said: “It’s ridiculous to suggest that Facebook leads to divorce. Whether you’re breaking up or just getting together, Facebook is just a way to communicate, like letters, phone calls and emails. Facebook doesn’t cause divorces, people do.” (guardian.co.uk) Facebook do not just cause you break up, sometimes it will let you lose the job.
人们醒来时，他们会首先检查他们的脸谱网和电子邮件，在他们去睡觉一样。人们经常花很多时间上网而不做其他活动；他们浪费时间在阅读有关他们的朋友的生活细节，看他们的照片，并获得最新的八卦，每个人都在做什么。为什么人们发挥的原因之一是因为他们想与他们的朋友竞争。同时，用户的脸谱网住在彼此几乎，检查对方的情况，查看他们的照片，或阅读他们对他们的职位和他们在做什么。如果某人的高中同学去上假期旅行，上传200张照片，你可以看到所有的乐趣和与他们聊天的照片，发表评论的“墙”。大部分的时间，个人可以查看图片绝对陌生人，或他们的朋友的朋友。即使我们没有谁是我们真正的朋友。“我们的有线连接。”丹尼尔说gloeman。（社会智力，2006）我们都知道，我们有不同的朋友，但很少有人能在一个直接的和深刻的方式连接。gloeman向我们展示了大自然的相互依赖和培育。我们已经知道谁是我们的朋友，谁是我们的朋友。即使我们使用社交网络的每一天，但社会网络并没有真的改变了我们的生活这么多。研究表明人们保持4和7之间的亲密的朋友在任何给定的时间。在脸谱网，每个人至少有300甚至更多的朋友在他们的网页上，但不是所有的朋友都是熟悉的人。他们可能是你的同学，学校还是陌生人。但什么是朋友？“两个身体，一个灵魂。”希腊哲学家亚里士多德。
在英国广播公司新闻，更多的朋友，有人说有一个研究，他们很容易添加朋友从来都不知道。“这是恐惧，我们都变得越来越浅，脸谱网的朋友，代表一种通货膨胀，削弱了价值的之前或真正的友谊。”（故事从脸谱网）。脸谱网可以帮助我们与我们的朋友连接也可以让人们生活在一个虚拟的世界，人们会发现和培养关系。个人很容易面临的安全问题如身份盗窃或轰击到他们的个人生活从其他个人，因为存在大量的欺诈和欺骗的在线社交网站。“我们正在做的事情在脸谱网，只是帮助人们连接和更有效地沟通。”马克扎克伯格说。然而，一些用户或离用户声称，脸谱网做的正好相反。很多情况下出现，显示与脸谱网作为创造了很多的个人与他人关系的障碍，特别是与他们的配偶，已婚和未婚的。脸谱网，在一些国家，是关系问题的主要原因，而许多人声称，脸谱网是“原始”的人离婚。无论是脸谱网成为夫妻之间的障碍，个人生活的隐私也已成为罕见。一个35岁的女人艾玛，是一个明显的例子，有一些人嘲笑了他们的关系，使用脸谱网，当她发现她丈夫的脸谱网个人信息后，“[他]最后离婚”。一个女人发现她的丈夫对她不忠而有婚外情的人他会见了脸谱网，后来最终离婚了他。从家长，对脸谱网的发言人说：“说脸谱网导致离婚是荒谬的。无论你是分手还是刚刚在一起，脸谱网是一种沟通方式，如写信，电话和电子邮件。脸谱网不会导致离婚的，人也。”（Guardian。脸谱网网站）不只是因为你分手，这有时会让你失去工作。
